The Father Boy
ALA90S. Wedding exam
"Papa don't open my problems to Dad." I'm really afraid Izza is hated.
"No, Papa's gonna find another reason."
I wonder why papa Ghifar said so softly. Let alone women, men feel calm. There was a grace in his soft voice.
"Thank you, Pa. I don't want to get divorced, I must be looked upon badly by my sisters. I'm still trying, let Izza know and understand. Which I don't think I should take her to her family." I don't want to see its destruction because I left it.
"But it's also wrong that you keep something that hurts you. That lifetime is too long, Bang Chandra. If you can't defend each other, no one can be saved. Fighting alone is tired, Bang. Not proposing divorce, but drawing it that way rather than being forced into a marriage bond." Papa Ghifar patted me on the shoulder, then he massaged it slowly.
A lifetime of surviving is too long, right.
"I want him to understand." I can only afford to look down at my bare feet without these slippers.
"There must be on his side that advises also, Bang. Awareness itself comes late, sometimes after regret comes, new awareness comes. Invite you to be Izza's bestie, or tell him to play to Aca's mama. Mama Aca is lazy to play tuh, not he is not friendly, but it is a kind of human lying. So, yes the lzza came. Mama Aca must be happy if anyone plays." Papa Ghifar turned to the door.
"Papa mama Aca there is no problem anyway? If you know me, the same father biyung right his father is a case continues, the queen of drama. Little things are often big problems." Because as far as I am concerned, their households are the most ademic.
"Some time, stepson, biological child, new biological child. If the foster child, even no problem because obviously he's someone else's child. Nahda fought the same Kal. Mama Aca her language, my son was pinched with your son. Trivial sounds, but suddenly so big. Papa never screams snapped, angry ya move room. There used to be a grandparent, it is often right to be angry to move house. Just mama Aca is old, has a lot of experience, ya realized and persuaded Papa home. His name is Papa Love, yes pull again. Besides the kids, we raise the cooking problem. Bored, really bored with the side dishes. What did Mama Aca say? Yes, there eat prayer. Yeah how's the problem not trying? Fatigued, hungry, he replied. But yes get along again, people both need. Besides, about Mayranti. The long-lived father-in-law needs Mama Aca to take care of Mayranti and take care of him. But Mama Aca is here to have children. So at the beginning of the month will be picked up by Kaf, Ranti and I will be picked up and stay here. From the first also, Papa is considered bad continuously because of his descent Adi Riyana. They knew Grandpa was polygamous, so Papa thought it was that bad. Until they're here, it'll be hot Papa's ears." Papa Ghifar rubbed his ears.
"Was Mayranti not married yet?" It was her sister Mama Aca.
"Udah, there's a child. Yes, her husband Papa will withdraw work here, we have all lived here. Rather than in Cirebon, make a fuss mama Aca told filial all sorts."
"Why can't Papa's mom Aca go home filial with her dad?" I just want to know why.
"Keep Papa married again here so?" Papa Ghifar was angry.
"The position of parents and husbands, for women is higher husband. Papa is not a dutiful, Mama Aca has been there for a month. Just how is Papa here? Papa works, the kids are all here. Life here still goes on, but it feels difficult because there is no mama Aca who set everything up. Random, non-consecutive and all-round veterans. Even though Mama Aca likes GO-FOOD too, but Papa is still ready to eat, not order first and wait first. Papa who is hungry can not wait and order quickly, as a result of his run to instant noodles again. Tuh? Can't Papa if there's no Mama Aca to take care of. The problem is, Mama Aca must be here to take care of Papa and the children, mama Aca must also be in Cirebon to take care of her father. The problem is the role of the Acanya mama, right? So yes find a way out of the problem, not let go of mom Akaya. Let mama Aca still take care of Papa, but still dutiful to his father, yes one of them must give up to come to the other side. Papa can't move and won't move because Papa's business is here and this is where Papa's life goes, it means his father has to give up and come here."
I draw conclusions. If there is a problem in a relationship, what is solved is the problem, not the relationship.
I should be able to solve Izza's problems, not let go of Izza. Izza has to be completely open-minded and open-hearted, if he really loves me.
"It doesn't matter if the household exam is the first five years, Pa?" I supported my chin to listen to Papa Ghifar's words again.
"Not a test, rather to understand each other it takes about five years. Know the character, habits, character and role. Free long courtship, because in the context of courtship there is no story of gas runs out. Go for a walk, have fun. No need to buy gas, want to coffee yes to the coffee shop if still dating anyway. I got married, I can't always go to a coffee shop. Even want it at home, rest, gather, chat. After all, than the money to keep going to the coffee shop. Better to buy your own coffee brewing machine, keep family time at home while coffee. Then, you will not know that the habit of the couple is BAB every time you wake up in the morning if you are still dating. But after the wedding you know, right? Keep about the role, the courtship period you will not know that breakfast is mandatory for the wife because the husband rush to work. Must be in the shadow of the courtship time to wake up in the morning making out while cooking breakfast. Marriage is not so, Bang. Morning boro-boro friendly, which there is a fog about their respective duties. Monday moreover, it's been a little crazy to rush mixed emotions." Papa Ghifar to the head bobble.
"It was a long time ago right?" It must be very emotionally draining if getting to know it takes five years.
"Don't believe it? There must be a difference of understanding, if it is still one or two years. Moreover, Papa will have children, a sudden hassle. Papa's time is widowed, because the child is handled by all grandmothers. Post-marriage, biological children, conjoined children, foster children, plus old pregnant mother Aca. Plus, right there Papa has a crush on another woman. I'm kind of crazy, luckily Mama Aca fought Papa half dead. Look at the big pregnant wife, so framed. Look at the woman Papa taxir, redundant cake if not seen. At home tetep ngelonin mama Aca, but still menggambunin women. Fortunately Papa's brain is conscious. Sometimes so men's temptations make money, Bang." Papa Ghifar rubbed his face.
Waduh, how will I? Sealim papa Ghifar has been exposed to third-person love magic, let alone me who often glances in any direction?
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