Conditional Referral
The Bad Effects of Scaring Children

This time Zaid asked Erina to understand the adverse effects of her caregiver pattern on Raka. Zaid fully understood that his intentions were good. However, scaring children is not always good. Moreover, Raka herself has found a fairly extreme response that she is afraid because she thinks her mother will leave the house, will not live with her again.

"Please, Rin .. don't scare Raka with such a thing. What he showed as a natural response was not very good mentally. Maybe some people ignore the mental health, including the mental child. However, we his parents cannot ignore him" Zaid replied.

Hearing what Zaid had just said, Erina seemed to lower her head. It felt like he was feeling too much to scare Raka. Even though his intentions are good too. Just as Zaid said just now Sweet Fragrance is made of sugar and food coloring, if too much eating it can cause coughing. This form of logical relationship is what parents must explain to the child.

"Do you think Raka is naughty?" Zaid looked at Erina and asked her.

Erina quickly shook her head. "No, Raka isn't naughty," she replied.

"However, you must have heard many times that he wanted his mother to come home and promised not to be naughty. Raka is a good boy, Erin. He's never been naughty at all" Zaid replied.

Now Erina seems to be doing self-introspection. Understanding what Zaid had just told him. Although Erina on the one hand was hardening her own heart.

"If you really want to ban Raka, convey a logical relationship. Do not let our Raka be a child who is timid, not confident, anxiety funds because he always can not do what he wants. Even worse when Raka grows up, maybe he does not dare to make a decision" Zaid replied.

Actually since deciding to divorce Erina first, Zaid spent a lot of time for self-introspection. Even in his spare time he spent reading parenting material. Because, Zaid also wants to improve himself and also wants to accommodate Raka's needs.

However, there are times when a plan is not worth the expectations. Raka's accident and Raka's memory loss of her divorce from Erina, lead Zaid to reconcile with Erina. However, the referral effort also felt heavy for both, especially Erina.

It is undeniable that every parent wants to be the best figure for their children. So too with Zaid. Although she felt rejected by Raka because her feed was considered bad, and also felt that what Raka needed was her Mama. But Zaid did not give up. He wants to adapt to the situation. It was not Raka who had to adjust to him. But he who wants and must adapt to Raka.

"Don't let Raka lose faith in her parents. If you do eat Sweet Fragrance, just say later if most can cough. Therefore, you can buy and eat a little. It doesn't have to be spent" Zaid replied.

Long enough Zaid spoke there, while Erina listened to what Zaid had to say. Now, Erina realized that the way to convey something was wrong. So the response shown by Raka is a form of fear.

"Sorry," Erina replied in the end.

"It's okay, Rin. We both studied for Raka. If not his parents, who else? He needs us so much" Zaid replied.

Erina who listened to Zaid gained new insights. There is no harm in being late for self-injection. The important thing when you know where the mistake is to apologize and correct the attitude to be able to continue to do your best.

"Thanks, Rin .. hopefully we can both be compact for Raka," he replied.

More than his own ego. Zaid realizes that indeed he and Erina must be compact for Raka. If you adopt a good parenting pattern, the child will grow and develop well too.